Have you ever been harmed by pornography? - Please send your personal story anonymously here

If you have been harmed by pornography (or in prostitution) as a woman, the partner of a porn user, a family member of a user, an acquaintance of a porn user, in the making of porn, as a porn user him/herself, etc., in any of the ways described on this site here or there, or

if you are/were a pornography user who has decided to stop using porn/has stopped using porn because you have noticed the obvious misogyny, racism, and/or violence of the material and its harms to women, children and/or yourself in any of the ways described on this site,

you can send me your personal story via simply posting a comment on this blog's post here.

Please do not forget that your personal account could help many other people understand the harms of this cruel industry.

To preserve your anonymity, you can either choose a nickname or 'anonymous' when you post.

Please avoid religious comments, however, as Against Pornography is a secular website and I, Maggie Hays, am a non-religious blogger. If you are religious, I respect your choice. So, please respect my choice of not being religious by not posting any religious comment(s) when you write your story.


First:

Here is a link to my personal story to show you how I was harmed by pornography and how I became a radical feminist.


Here are also a few stories from people who have been harmed by this cruel pornography industry:

"I was thirteen when I was forced into prostitution and pornography. . . I was drugged, raped, gang-raped, imprisoned, beaten, sold from one pimp to another, photographed by pimps, photographed by tricks; I was used in pornography and they used pornography on me; "[t]hey knew a child's face when they looked into it. It was clear that I was not acting of my own free will. I was always covered with welts and bruises. . . It was even clearer that I was sexually inexperienced. I literally didn't know what to do. So they showed me pornography to teach me about sex and then they would ignore my tears as they positioned my body like the women in the pictures and used me."
-- Sarah Wynter, pseudonym, quoted in "Beaver Talks", A. Dworkin, Life and Death. ; 1997.

"She was raped by two men. They were acting out the pornographic video game “Custer’s Revenge.” She was American Indian; they were white. “They held me down and as one was running the tip of this knife across my face and throat he said, ‘Do you want to play Custer’s Last Stand? It’s great. You lose but you don’t care, do you? You like a little pain, don’t you, squaw. ‘ They both laughed and then he said, ‘There is a lot of cock in Custer’s Last Stand. You should be grateful, squaw, that All-Amerikan boys like us want you. Maybe we will tie you to a tree and start a fire around you.’ "
-- quoted in "The Censored Truth" article, by Ann J. Simonton.

"He was a lover. He'd go to porno movies, then he'd come home and say, "I saw this in a movie. Let's try it." I felt really exploited, like I was being put into a mold."
-- Ms. C., quoted in Russell Study, published in Take Back the Night: Women on Pornography; 1980.

"[My boyfriend] had gone to a stag party, this particular evening I was home alone in my apartment. He called me on the telephone and he said that he had seen several short pornographic films and he felt horny... So he asked if he could come over specifically to have sex with me. I said yes because at that time I felt obligated as a girlfriend to satisfy him. I also felt that the refusal would be indicative of sexual, quote-unquote, hang-ups on my part and that I was not, quote-unquote, liberal enough. When he arrived he informed me that the men at the party were envious that he had a girlfriend to fuck. They wanted to fuck too after watching the pornography. He informed me of this as he was taking his coat off. He then took off the rest of his clothes and had me perform fellatio on him. I did not do this of my own volition. He put his genitals in my face and he said, "Take it all." Then he fucked me on the couch in the living room. All this took about five minutes. And when he was finished, he dressed and went back to the party. I felt ashamed and numb and I also felt very used. This encounter differed from others previous. It was much quicker, it was somewhat rougher, and he was not aware of me as a person. There was no foreplay. It is my opinion that his viewing of the pornography served as foreplay for him..."
-- Testimony of N.C., at the public hearings on pornography which took place before a comittee of the Minneapolis City Council on December 12-13 of 1983, published in C. MacKinnon and A. Dworkin Eds., In Harm's Way: The Pornography Civil Rights Hearings; 1997.

"Starting at age 4, old Mr. Edwards up the street used pornography to entice me into taking baths so he could watch, had me wearing his wife[']s clothes and eventually having oral sex and being penetrated by him. This went on for five years. He used pornography to show me how to be -- and what to do -- until I didn't see anything wrong -- with anything he did to me -- or had me do to him..."
-- Statement of Peggy, published in the Minneapolis press conference; in C. MacKinnon and A. Dworkin Eds., In Harm's Way: The Pornography Civil Rights Hearings; 1997.

". . . Even though the sound on the pornographic tape was off, he continually sent me to the door of the room to make sure the keyhole was covered, the door locked, and/or barricaded, and to listen for anyone walking down the hall. Meanwhile I was to keep coming back to him to do whatever he wanted sexually. He wanted me to watch how the various women in the video performed oral sex on the men. And then he insisted that I do the same with him while he continued to watch that movie. If I didn't go down on him far enough or hard enough, he would put his hands on my head and push it up and down, sometimes so hard that I thought I would faint. . . A number of times after watching the [pornographic] video, he actually took me to some filthy places, often crack houses, telling me that he felt that I was ready, that I was his whore, and that he knew men who would pay big bucks for me. But I had to do it right. I had to please them, or else he and I would be in danger. In hallways, in stairwells, in basements, and bathrooms of crack houses, in seedy hotels, in apartments where sometimes there were small children in cribs, my partner offered me like a prize to numerous men and women. He would force me to strip and seduce them, all the while coaching me, instructing me, talking to me as if from that video, even when he was having sex with other women in the same room. He once traded me for cocaine to a man who forced me to have sex with him at knifepoint. After all this, we went home to the video, that pornographic video, and the abuse continued. My partner pointed out to me what I didn't do right, what I should have done, what I could have done much better. That video become my nightmare. Every time he made me turn it on, I became sick with fear for I knew that I was in for hours of verbal abuse, physical pain and sexual torture. And I was trapped. If I protested, if tried to leave, if I made but a sound, he would threaten to break every bone in my body and put me in the hospital. And sometimes I wished I had gone to the hospital, just to get away from that video."
-- Testimony of L.B. , at the Massachusetts public hearing; in C. MacKinnon and A. Dworkin Eds., In Harm's Way: The Pornography Civil Rights Hearings; 1997.

"[O]ver a period of eight years... I worked as a prostitute, dancer and nude model... As a prostitute I worked in massage parlours, peep shows, private apartments, street corners, bars and for escort services... At the age of seventeen I began dancing in topless and bottomless bars. I was working for a pimp and was under a lot of pressure from him and the club owners to make a lot of money. In these bars they had pornographic videos playing constantly which contained graphic scenes of various sexual acts. The women in the videos were usually naked and the men were often clothed except for their penis. . . I had never seen pornographic movies before. I soon found out that in order to make tips I had to lay on the dance floor, spread my legs and expose my genitals to the customers, just like in the videos. . . A lot of my work consisted of acting out particular scenes for the customer [john] which caused him to become aroused. . . Some of the most violent pornography that I saw was in the houses of customers that I saw through escort services... I considered the men who were into pornography to be the most dangerous and potentially violent since that is what aroused them. . . At least fifty percent of the men that I saw professionally were into fantasies and pornography such as I have described. They were men from all over the world and all types of professions. Every prostitute I know has had similar experiences. Often we keep it to ourselves because it is very painful to remember. I have been scarred for life both mentally and physically. I have violent nightmares on a regular basis which replay my worst experiences of sexual violence over and over. I have difficulty relating to people in normal social situations. I cannot make love with someone without having flashbacks of being a prostitute. I have very little self confidence..."
-- Written Submission of J.W., Boston, Massachusetts; published in in C. MacKinnon and A. Dworkin Eds., In Harm's Way: The Pornography Civil Rights Hearings; 1997.

"When I was six years old, my brother (then fourteen) was given or bought some "adult" magazines and he used to show them to me when our parents were out. Then he began to sexually abuse me. He often used to read the magazines before he abused me. I was abused at three to four by my grandfather -- I remember finding some "adult" magazines at his flat once. For years I was abused by my grandfather and brother, but felt too guilty to tell anyone. If our parents went out on a Saturday night my brother would invite his friends around. They'd bring their magazines and sit around joking about women's bodies. Then my brother would make me strip and straddle the bath while one by one they'd sit underneath having a look at my genitals..."
-- Anonymous, quoted in Catherine Itzin and Corinne Sweet, "Women's Experience of pornography: UK magazine survey evidence", in Catherine Itzin Ed., Pornography: Women, Violence and Civil Liberties; 1993.

"I now see a lot of my relationship with him as being some kind of sexual assault. He used to use pornography at the same time as having sex with me -- it was as if I became one of those pictures... That's a much more subtle form of assault."
-- Anonymous, quoted in Liz Kelly, Surviving Sexual Violence; 1988.

"I wanted to be the cool girlfriend. Like, I’ll be cool and watch porn and fuck you. I didn’t want to come across as Pollyanna-ish. … [But] there was something about him needing the objectification of another woman to turn him on. Then he could transfer that excitement to my body."
-- Mia, quoted in Pamela Paul, Pornified; 2005.

"We’ve been together five years. … Recently, I discovered through the computer that he’s fascinated by hardcore pornography. When confronted, he said I have no right to be upset. … I feel I’m not going to be able to satisfy his urges because I’m unwilling to do what really turns him on … it’s making me question whether I’m willing to continue a relationship with someone who can disregard my feelings so easily."
-- Woman writing to a local advice columnist, quoted in Pamela Paul, Pornified; 2005.

"It’s kind of silly, but my standards changed. Women who were otherwise good-looking but weren’t as overtly sexy as the women in porn don’t appeal to me as much anymore. I found that I look more for women who have the attributes I see in porn. I want bigger breasts, blonder hair, curvier bodies in general. Just better-looking overall... I find that when I’m out at a party or a bar, I catch myself sizing up women. I would say to myself, “Wait a second. This isn’t a supermarket. You shouldn’t treat her like she’s some piece of meat. Don’t pass her up just because her boobs aren’t that big."
-- Harrison, porn user, quoted in Pamela Paul, Pornified; 2005.

"I look for more extreme stuff... It’s become more severe as time has gone on...for some reason, with porn, in order for me to get excited, I need to notch it up one level. It’s got to be more extreme. Seeing women demeaned is somehow a turn on."
-- Tyler, porn user, quoted in Pamela Paul, Pornified; 2005.

"I was just masturbating with [my wife]. All the while I was thinking either about porn or trying to make her say things she didn’t want to say. I was really just using her -- she was like a masturbatory accessory."
-- Miles, porn user, quoted in Pamela Paul, Pornified; 2005.

"During that period of my life, sex had nothing to do with expressing love or affection... I became more selfish, because with porn, it was all about me -- me feeling better, me getting more pleasure, me getting more excited. It was completely self-centered."
-- Liam, ex-porn user, quoted in Pamela Paul, Pornified; 2005.

"People from the ACLU ignore the fact that freedom, as defined by our society, is not actually freedom at all... [T]he argument that pornography is "natural" ignores the fact that there are men who have given up their obsession with pornography and have not died... When the [pornography] addict commits an act of abuse, when he is sexual with a child or with a prostitute or a student or an employee, when he has sex with his wife while fantasizing on another woman, the addict believes that using another person as an object will relieve his unhappiness. And for a second that unhappiness is numbed and forgotten, and a rush of excitement does occur. But afterwards the unhappiness returns, the drug has worn off. And the addict becomes angry at the person he has used because that person has not done what he thinks that person should do -- take away his unhappiness. He carries that anger to the next act of abuse, to the next person he abuses."
-- David Mura, "A Male Grief: Notes on Pornography and Addiction" (1987), in Michael S. Kimmel Ed., Men Confront Pornography; 1990.

"While looking at pornography, I developed a way of looking at women. I developed, if you will, a pornographic ethic. After looking at pornography, I did not look at women as colleagues, potential friends, or allies, or with any kind of gaze based on justice or caring. I looked at women based on how I compared them to the man-made images of women I saw in the magazines or on the videos. The women I saw on the street, in classes, at meetings, etc. became simply "fuck-able" to varying degrees. I looked at them and thought about the things that I would like to do to (not with) them sexually – things that I fantasized they would enjoy, but the ultimate focus of which was my own sexual fulfillment... Being committed to justice and using pornography is inherently contradictory, because one cannot look at others as fully equal, empowered, dynamic human beings if one is also looking at them through the pornographic gaze."
-- Rus Ervin Funk, "What does pornography say about me(n)? How I became an anti-pornography activist.", in Not for Sale; 2004.

"The evidence makes it even clearer that this pornographic culture also is destructive for men. This doesn’t mean the harms of pornography are borne equally by all; in male-dominant societies, women bear the brunt of the damage from the sexualizing of a domination/subordination dynamic, which is so central to pornography. . . In my own use of pornography as a child and young man, I remember how completely I would shut down during the experience. So, to enter into the pornographic world and experience that intense sexual rush, many men have to turn off some of the emotional reactions typically connected to a sexual experience with a real person -- a sense of the other’s humanity, an awareness of being present with another person, the recognition of something outside our own bodies, as well as a deeper connection to oneself. Many of those same men report that in intimate relationships with another person, this same emotionally shut-down response to sexual stimulation kicks in. In short: Pornography helps train men not to feel during an experience that is most about feeling. Compounding the problem is the way in which pornography intensifies men’s sense of control, over self and others. . . So, men turn women into objects in order to turn ourselves into objects, splitting off loving emotion from body, in search of a sexual experience in which we don’t have to feel and can stay in complete control. Coming full circle, this is not only destructive for men but dangerous for women. Because sex is always more than a physical act, men see king this split-off state often find themselves having uncontrollable emotional reactions that can get channeled easily into violence and cruelty, increasing the risk to women. Despite this, the pornography industry continues to tell us that their products represent the ultimate in sexual liberation. But the only thing being liberated is our cash, into their pockets. In the end, I believe men should reject pornography and resist the pornifying of the culture for two reasons. First is an argument from justice, a principled concern for the welfare of women. Second is an argument from self-interest. Do we want to be shut down and cut off from one of the great mysteries of life? Do we want to trade our humanity for a quick, cheap thrill that ends up costing us all more than we may realize?"
-- Robert Jensen, Article "Abusive images belittle women, men and sex", Irish Examiner (Dublin), June 7, 2007, p. 10. Source: http:// uts.cc.utexas.edu/%7Erjensen/freelance/pornographyirishexaminer.htm

"I discovered in April 2004 that my then-boyfriend was secretly a regular porn
user. He had figured I wouldn't like it, so he'd kept it a secret even though
I'd asked about this before we were dating. My life hasn't been the same
since. I'll elaborate on some reasons why...
1) I never knew what "porn" entailed. In my mind, it was Playboy. I never in
my wildest dreams would've guessed that prostitution was legal as long as it
took place in front of a camera. I continue not to understand the double standard.
2) I cannot believe that almost every other form of exploitation imaginable is
illegal, but porn is not. And, in fact, it is supposedly protected by the First
Amendment of the Bill of Rights. What message does this state about our
society? How does the stuff being filmed not violate even today's "community
standards"? Much of it is revoltingly humiliating and violent.
3) I have learned that it is the norm nowadays for women to expect their guys
to feel that they (the guys) have the "right" to view porn. In my mind, this
practice equates with infidelity--and science backs me up on this. A porn
viewer's physical neurological experience is no different than if he was
experiencing the act itself. In other words, in his mind, he literally IS
participating in these experiences. I have spoken with numerous women who describe "hating" that their partner’s porn use, but who are intimidated by the partner’s arguments for the behavior. Why, why, do women tolerate it? I fail to comprehend this resigned attitude. Women shouldn’t feel intimidated about discussing the issue with their partner, and they do NOT have to tolerate their partner’s use of porn.
4) How can our society invest so much in raising our little girls, only to
offer them absolutely no protection from the pornographer's camera at age 18 (or
younger in many countries)? How is an 18-year old girl ready to make a choice with such incredibly high risks to her physical health, her emotional health, her physical
safety, her reputation, and her future? How can we feel OK in failing to protect our children from forming their first sexual impressions with easily accessible internet porn? Is it logical to expect the innumerous number of children "groomed" on the harmful dominant/submissive, egotistical/contemptuous messages of porn to eventually know how to establish integrity-based opposite-sex friendships--or to develop loving, faithful, and mutually respectful sexual relationships?
5) I was raised with the understanding that most guys are "nice" guys.
Qualities of "nice" guys, to me, included chivalry, honor, honesty, respect,
cleanliness, and compassion. I have, since 4/04, learned that a large
percentage of guys use pornography--many on a regular basis. I have found that
there is no way that I can tell if a guy is a porn user. Porn users may appear
to me to be the "nicest" of guys--not the seedy, greasy, back-alley,
full-of-himself kind of guy that I would have known to avoid. I no longer feel
comfortable around guys in general, spare the very few I know for certain do not use
porn. This stems from the feeling I have that if a guy is a porn user, he is
disrespecting and degrading me just by the fact that he is disrespecting my
fellow sisters (the prostituted women he views). So I’ve grown quieter in public settings over the past years. Regrettably, I would not be surprised if many now view my (formerly social) personality as aloof.
6) The night that I learned about my boyfriend’s porn use, I experienced the physical sensation of being "flattened"-as by a truck. I developed PTSD, reliving this "flattening" sensation whenever a trigger prompted the memory of that night. Relatedly, I developed panic disorder, in which a panic attack occurred when I recalled a memory of the situation. I would panic about how desperate I was for it to end, how I just couldn’t go on any longer with these painful memories and realizations. It became difficult for me to go out in public due to anxiety about having a panic attack in front of others. Major depression followed, as I came to ruminate over four unreconciled forms of disillusionment:
A) I’d learned that my boyfriend was a far cry from the faithful, sexually inexperienced, and compassionate pro-feminist partner that he’d portrayed himself as to me.
B) I’d learned that my relationship with my boyfriend was rife with dishonesty.
C) I developed an anxious sense of social vulnerability as a woman. I learned that the fact of being a woman does not assure one the respect and solicitous attention from "nice" men that I’d grown up understanding as the norm. I could not overtly differentiate between a man who used pornography and one who did not-and I came to feel potentially subversively disrespected by the majority of men. Additionally, I learned that our society goes to great lengths to cover up the harms caused by pornography, and to remove obstacles to its proliferation. I learned that there are virtually no inhabited areas left in the world free of porn’s degrading effects.
D) I felt incredible empathy for the girls and women in the porn industry, who are routinely abused in countless ways. Initially, I felt incredible outrage that their abuses do not warrant persistent public outcry. As my repeated attempts to bring the matter to public attention failed, my outrage eventually muted into despair.
My life has become dominated by attempts to return to some semblance of emotional stability. I’ve tried numerous antidepressants and visited multiple psychotherapists. My sex life is difficult, as unwelcome thoughts of "nice guy" insensitivity to women's pain and humanity can dampen even a tender lovemaking experience. My failure to be able to reconcile many of the above-mentioned points has led me to an ongoing battle with suicidal thoughts. Living in a world where such exploitation and social injustice thrives holds little appeal for me. The bulk of my pre-4/04 dreams and wishes have been channeled into a desire to see the demise of mainstream support for pornography. As long as I continue to see some hope toward this end, I’ve concluded that-as painful as it feels-my life is worth living.
Maggie, I hope I've painted a descriptive picture of what I'm going through. I am trying to accept the new (to me) and abhorrent reality of what porn involves, and that it has gone mainstream in our society. I guess it's so hard, because all most other social "evils" are recognized as such (ie poverty, child labor, etc.). But today, porn is glorified by its promoters, while barely an objectionable voice is raised. People either don’t understand it (my former self) or they are uncomfortable talking about it, few secular groups are willing to tackle it, its viewing seems just as pervasive in "religious" circles as secular, and the media gives very little space or time to portraying it’s harms. I, personally, have tried to write numerous letters to the editor of our city newspaper regarding the harms of pornography and prostitution--but none have yet been published."
-- 'Rose', email sent to the Against Pornography website's email address in 2007.

"I just read your excellent new important web site and I want to thank you for it and also share my personal victimization from pornography. In the Fall of 1978 when I was 13 and a half I was the only girl in a classroom of teenage boys. I was very big busted by that age and considered beautiful and I was molested by two 14 year old boys who repeatedly grabbed at my breasts and crotch. One of the boys made several references to the women in Playboy and the other boy shoved a pornographic magazine into my face in an empty classroom,and he said here is a picture of a girl fingering herself. Now this was before the days of the Internet and before hardcore pornography was made so mainstreamed and normalized and common place and I doubt they had seen hardcore pornography. But they still learned from the so-called "softcore" pornography the same sexist woman hating dehumanizing attitudes that all pornography teaches boys and men,that girls and women exist just to be sexually used for their pleasure,and they have a right to take and use us and that we want to be sexually used as objects!
Also it wasn't just these two boys,I couldn't walk in the halls past other boys without some dehumanizing sexist comments made about my big breasts. And when I was 14 I was sitting on the art room steps with a boyfriend and the art room teacher who must of been in his 30's says to a whole room full of teenage boys,that the boy I was sitting on the stairs with said it's the art room teachers turn after his.
I have seen so many pornographic web sites that depict and describe women and sex so hatefully and violent with words like this, slamming,banging,and pounding huge c*cks into the sluts,whores and bitches, one pornographic video was called,This Bitch Hates Facials,another described drunken sluts getting f*cked hard,and there was throat f*cking and gagging sluts videos,another described a slut getting f*cked so hard in the ass until she screams,and another described a whore sister being f*cked hard, etc It's so sick and damaging and it's really a sick male dominated woman hating society that has normalized it! Of course pornography is a big reason we live in a sick male dominated woman hating society and thats where pornography as you already know came from in the first place! It portrays women as nothing but things to stick penises into and nothing but things to feel,f*ck,ejaculate all over and forget for the whole sexist male dominated woman hating society's pleasure!
Whats really even more disturbing is because pornography sexualizes male dominance and women's subordination, sexist gender inequality in a very sexist male dominated woman hating society,and because it's been unjustly mainstreamed and normalized, many women I have found on message boards are saying they like pornography, it's really insane it's the exact same thing as a black person liking and getting off on racist pornography or a Jew liking and getting off on anti-Semitic pornography! Anti-pornography feminist philosophy professor Rebecca Whisnant said to me in a phone conversation in 2004 that many women are now playing along with pornography because many of their boyfriends and husbands use it and they say 'if you can't beat them join them'."
-- 'C.M.', email sent to the Against Pornography website's email address in 2007.

"First of all, I'd like to thank you so much for what you're doing to put this message out there and to get people to really think about the contents of what they're consuming. I think this is truly an important and meaningful cause.
I'd like to start off by saying I have a wonderful boyfriend who I love very much. We have been together for almost 2 years. He used to be a pornography user.
About 1 year after we had been dating I went to a presentation by Robert Jensen on this subject matter. I ended up crying during the presentation because of the sudden realization that my relationships had been effected by this... the way I was being treated, the way I allowed myself to be treated and presented myself sexually... Suddenly I realized that me, my boyfriend, and my relationship had been infiltrated and manipulated by porn. In the bedroom my boyfriend was calling me slut, bitch, all kinds of horrible names. He would push me down on his penis forcing me to perform oral sex, and would say things like "tell me that you want it...tell me that you like it...don't you like [my] dick?" He would taunt me saying "Tell me where you want it...tell me how you want it?"
And I let him do these sorts of things. I even had convinced myself that I liked it.
The realization made me disgusted with myself, disgusted with him, and then angry that we had been manipulated in such a way. So we had a talk. . . and we've been working on it. He quit watching porn...which he admitted was hard. We've been working on him not referring to sex as "fucking" but as sex or as making love. We've been working on not calling me names... not succumbing to practices that I don't actually enjoy, and not EVER forcing me to do anything... not having any sexual activity that is not fully consensual.
I would like to say that we have been able to fully do this... but it still happens... he still sometimes reverts back to copying things he saw in porn, proving that it is a hard habit to break. It is still also hard for me to not feel like I have to compete with the images he used to consume. I still feel like I'm not good enough, I'm not sexy enough, I'm not slutty enough sometimes.
It amazes me how pervasive pornography is into every facet of the psyche.
But we're working on it. He stopped using [porn]... that's a big step.
Thanks again for your work in this area."
-- 'Anna', email sent to the Against Pornography website's email address in 2007.


These personal accounts (above) are very courageous ones. These stories are so meaningful as they show the cruel harms of this misogynistic and awful porn industry. And yet, these are only just a few stories among so many others. So many people out there are/have been harmed by pornography and do not have their free speech rights to tell what's happening/happened to them. Also, many women and children are often silenced by ongoing sexual abuse or sexual coercion and threats. And many pornography users have their intimacy and ways of interacting with women impaired by porn.

If you have been harmed by pornography (or in prostitution) as a woman, the partner of a porn user, a family member of a user, an acquaintance of a porn user, in the making of porn, as a porn user him/herself, etc., in any of the ways described on this site here or there, or

if you are/were a pornography user who has decided to stop using porn/has stopped using porn because you have noticed the obvious misogyny, racism, and/or violence of the material and its harms to women, children and/or yourself in any of the ways described on this site,

you can send me your personal story via simply posting a comment on this blog's post here.

If you were harmed by pornography (or the 'sex' industry), please do not forget that your personal account is very important. You are not alone. Your story matters and it could also help many other people understand the harms of this cruel industry.

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