tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-842371161692173823.post3111940838763844373..comments2023-05-12T05:38:51.341-07:00Comments on Maggie's Blog Against Pornography & Sexploitation: Have you ever been harmed by pornography? - Please send your personal story anonymously hereMaggiehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06050195471548220023noreply@blogger.comBlogger49125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-842371161692173823.post-63263453922350392492015-01-26T01:06:18.046-07:002015-01-26T01:06:18.046-07:00Are you still writing posts? Which website is you...Are you still writing posts? Which website is your most current, active one? Please don't stop posting. Women need someone to speak out about pornography.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-842371161692173823.post-56763075299015642872014-06-04T08:49:13.740-07:002014-06-04T08:49:13.740-07:00I have a powerful and crazy story that is worthy o...I have a powerful and crazy story that is worthy of being shared. Is there an email address that I can contact you at? I am not keen on posting it here yet. Thank you!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-842371161692173823.post-7847446466908020512014-04-09T01:51:06.543-07:002014-04-09T01:51:06.543-07:00The production of pornography is the exploitation ...The production of pornography is the exploitation of women (and other groups) who are treated as objects for the purpose of creating a commodity that can be sold for a profit. <br /><br />Such a practice obviously has extremely damaging social consequences as the author of this blog has stated, primarily (in my opinion) that we begin to perceive other fully-feeling human beings not as what they are, but as objects to be used and consumed. The true horror then is that we risk forgetting that these are real people with hopes fears and vulnerabilities. <br /><br />Biologically I am male. I did not choose to be male but as I am I must, if I am to succeed in being fully human, take responsibility for the crimes that men have committed and continue to commit against women and other groups.<br /><br />I am ashamed to say I have watched pornography many times, thoughtlessly, but when I eventually asked myself the question of who the person was on the screen, whether they were doing this of their own free will, whether they had hopes and dreams and if they were truly happy, whether they were victims of abuse, at that point pornography immediately lost all its appeal. It showed itself to be the disgusting, exploitative, and artificial thing that it is.<br /><br />I think that pornography, and its resulting exploitation are symptoms however of a larger problem. As with the ever increasing destruction of the environment, a societal obsession with warfare/violence and their resulting industries, and in general the idolization of material wealth and power at the expense of the the health and well being of human beings and the planet we call home.<br /><br />These problems I believe, and the author of this blog may or may not agree with me, are symptoms of a "patriarchal value-oriented society" - in the sense that "patriarchal" denotes the historically (though certainly not in all cultures) male values of power and material wealth at any expense; and often at the expense and subjugation of other human beings. The colonial era of imperialism, and arguably even our contemporary era of transnational corporations and global capitalism are perfect examples of this.<br /><br />Well how are we going to solve these problems? The first is realizing that that are, in fact, problems and may well end humanity. Global nuclear war, as an example, was a very real and horrific possibility within this century, and still remains so. So too with the wholesale destruction of the ecosystems which we rely on to survive. But I apologize for rambling and digressing. I think to change societal values is a difficult but not impossible thing to do. The institutions and power structures that enforce and disseminate those values are going to be against you. The younger generation, I think, is the best bet when it comes to changing the culture's values. Time is with you rather than against you that way. The younger generation hopefully has yet to fully internalize the values of the society that is run by the older generation. So with pornography, if a dialogue can be started with the younger generation on examining the validity of pornography; on the exploitation and abuse involved then I think there's a real chance of succeeding in changing those destructive and detrimental values and eliminating the widespread consumption and production of pornography.<br /><br />(To the author)<br />I apologize for my rambling and if I in any way seemed patronizing, you have likely spent far more time thinking (and acting to combat) these problems than I have, and I have the utmost respect for what you do. I wish you luck and all the best in your endeavour.<br /><br /><br /> Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-842371161692173823.post-9986246436226476022013-10-09T08:57:26.426-07:002013-10-09T08:57:26.426-07:00I used to be a stripper for almost 11 years and oc...I used to be a stripper for almost 11 years and occasionally, a prostitute. When I was 19 I went to Las Vegas to dance, when I got there I found out if your under 21 you have to dance nude because the bars that are just topless sole liquor and was 21 and up for entertainers too. I didn't know anyone there, met a man who turned out to be a pimp. He took my IDs and told me I would never return to Ohio and he had ppl watching me in the street. It was a horrible scary time in my life and my first experience with prostitution. I continued to get this easy money until the age of 28. After 2 charges in 1 yr, indecent exposure at the strip club and a DUI, I dicided to change my life. I started going to church, got my GED two summers ago, and singed up for college the month I got my GED. Now I'm getting ready to graduate with honors, perfect attendence (if I had perfect attendance at the bar I could do it for school). While all these positive changes were going on I was starting a relationship with a man I met at the bar, actually my only waitress job, and I've fallen in love. I love him with everything in my heart but he keeps hurting me. He's cheated on me twice, but it's been almost a year since last time. I check his phone and see he's been watching porno almost everyday! I told him when we got together I don't want him watching it, I consider it cheating. I changed my whole life for him and stay in the house Nd I'm a excellent girlfriend. When I found out he's been doing it again my whole world was crushed. We've been trying to get pregnant and he hadn't watched it in awhile so why would he jeopardize our relationship over a movie. I told him I would leave him and asked him if that's so important than me he can do that. I don't want to live my life like that, I'm supposed to be the only naked girl he sees. I don't understand why he would keep doing this to me after he promised he'd never do it again, that it's not important to him. I don't know what to do we keep going through this over and over. I love him soooo much and want to spend the rest of my life withbp him, but not if he watches porn. We have sex 2 or more times a day. I have a $800 pole the house and used to dance for him, still have my old outfits, now he don't even ask me to dance anymore for him. I seen one of e videos he was watching the girl was shaking her ass at the beginning. So I just don't understand why he disrespects me, makes me feel unworthy, not good enough, and soooo depressed by doing this. I haven't said anything yet but I don't know how long I can hold my feeling in. He's been soo good lately other then this problem. But it's a deal breaker, I don't want to have to live like this. I deserve better, a normal life and a man that respects me. He always promises he won't do it again, the does. Something's not for months but now it's been 2 times in 1 week. I just don't understand. It makes me feel like he don't love me. Should I leave him for good this time?Depressed in indianahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10232589004487983543noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-842371161692173823.post-63206077656074880882013-10-09T08:56:33.234-07:002013-10-09T08:56:33.234-07:00I used to be a stripper for almost 11 years and oc...I used to be a stripper for almost 11 years and occasionally, a prostitute. When I was 19 I went to Las Vegas to dance, when I got there I found out if your under 21 you have to dance nude because the bars that are just topless sole liquor and was 21 and up for entertainers too. I didn't know anyone there, met a man who turned out to be a pimp. He took my IDs and told me I would never return to Ohio and he had ppl watching me in the street. It was a horrible scary time in my life and my first experience with prostitution. I continued to get this easy money until the age of 28. After 2 charges in 1 yr, indecent exposure at the strip club and a DUI, I dicided to change my life. I started going to church, got my GED two summers ago, and singed up for college the month I got my GED. Now I'm getting ready to graduate with honors, perfect attendence (if I had perfect attendance at the bar I could do it for school). While all these positive changes were going on I was starting a relationship with a man I met at the bar, actually my only waitress job, and I've fallen in love. I love him with everything in my heart but he keeps hurting me. He's cheated on me twice, but it's been almost a year since last time. I check his phone and see he's been watching porno almost everyday! I told him when we got together I don't want him watching it, I consider it cheating. I changed my whole life for him and stay in the house Nd I'm a excellent girlfriend. When I found out he's been doing it again my whole world was crushed. We've been trying to get pregnant and he hadn't watched it in awhile so why would he jeopardize our relationship over a movie. I told him I would leave him and asked him if that's so important than me he can do that. I don't want to live my life like that, I'm supposed to be the only naked girl he sees. I don't understand why he would keep doing this to me after he promised he'd never do it again, that it's not important to him. I don't know what to do we keep going through this over and over. I love him soooo much and want to spend the rest of my life withbp him, but not if he watches porn. We have sex 2 or more times a day. I have a $800 pole the house and used to dance for him, still have my old outfits, now he don't even ask me to dance anymore for him. I seen one of e videos he was watching the girl was shaking her ass at the beginning. So I just don't understand why he disrespects me, makes me feel unworthy, not good enough, and soooo depressed by doing this. I haven't said anything yet but I don't know how long I can hold my feeling in. He's been soo good lately other then this problem. But it's a deal breaker, I don't want to have to live like this. I deserve better, a normal life and a man that respects me. He always promises he won't do it again, the does. Something's not for months but now it's been 2 times in 1 week. I just don't understand. It makes me feel like he don't love me. Should I leave him for good this time?Depressed in indianahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10232589004487983543noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-842371161692173823.post-86251599949281239912013-09-07T04:30:42.345-07:002013-09-07T04:30:42.345-07:00This site makes me so relieved. Finally im not mad...This site makes me so relieved. Finally im not made to feel like im a mad feminist, prude or over reacting.<br />Im currently in a 5 year relationship with a man who told me he doesn't watch porn because it degrades women. This was a lie. Yesterday I found porn on our laptop, Red haired sluts he'd googled. He has an obsession with red haired women which he constantly talks about and comments on. They're firey apparently. I have black hair. <br />Anyway a row started and i told him i hated porn. He knew that . We've only had the laptop 3 weeks as i refused to have one due to a previous boyfriends porn obsession. he used to act out scenes in the bedroom. I would get called a 'cock hungry bitch' his favourite expression when we were having sex . So this time i didn't want any temptation. He looked at porn pretty much as soon as we got it as he was deleting the history every day. But he obviously forgot yesterday. After initially denying it was him he then told me he was only looking at it once. ( probably looking at it for a friend ?) i lost it. Told him i was fed up with the ginger obsession and made to feel second best. Looking at him in a different light now , he calls women hot birds and constantly comments on 'birds' with his mates in front of me.<br />Im a youth worker and see how porn has seeped into our culture and now seen as the norm. Boys have porn on their phones and constantly ask the girls if they have 'hairy fannies' as this is disgusting apparently. As young teenage boys they know far too much and the way they speak to the girls is wrong.<br />I've lost faith in men. I dont trust them. They think they are superior to women. They view women as a commodity. Just tell a man you earn more than him and see how 'feminist' he is. <br />I've had my hairdresser shove his hand down my top and grope me when i was 14, I've had my arse touched, pinched and rubbed against more times than ican remember, I've had men ask me for directions and they've been wanking in the car, man on a tube wanking next to me and 2 men tried to pull me and a friend into their car when i was 15. Im fed up with being treated like meat. Im 42 years old and I've given up all ideas of having a decent relationship. And given up on men. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-842371161692173823.post-70913137534961525932013-08-20T18:33:07.209-07:002013-08-20T18:33:07.209-07:00porn leads to crysis,misery and suicidal moments b...porn leads to crysis,misery and suicidal moments but in my situation looks quite normal for it to occur, my dad is always a piece of shit and remains a piece of shit what can i do? my location is a hole can't sell can't move can't do pratically any thing besides immerging my self to pornography, so trying to get my self free from it its like beating the best record of running, i can't see a light in the end of tunnel it's very dark and full of rubble, i'm blocked in a cage inside a prison underground, and the worst part, i'm still underage... can you immagine living with this routine every second you breath oxygen in and out? i don't know what say... tipical thoughts of a living human being... one thing i don't like about this world: why is it so easy to be evil? and so difficult to make something good or be good? i mean it's easier to join the dark side than the bright side, it's so easy to destroy an object instead to create it or fix it or, it's easier to leave or kill a plant, rather then giving it water and taking care of it, that's why the world half of it or more is corrupted... in a matter of speaking, people don't porn as an overall pollution to the world, they think they can just get away with it, like a normal sport, it's really an insult to think that porn is thing to don't bother about, it offends me everytime i think of it, and i feel so sorry to the people who can't fix the problem, like i said before <br />can't win as much as losing in life. miracles and hopes are the only professionals at this point.living personnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-842371161692173823.post-63869292044976127952013-07-15T09:15:34.232-07:002013-07-15T09:15:34.232-07:00I was molested before age two by the male half of ...I was molested before age two by the male half of a childcare provider couple and their son. My mother, a survivor of terrible abuses by her stepfather, immediately removed me from the situation, which was excellent and I’m sure hard for her. But family lore says that I pulled away from her then, which angered her. It also says that I’d become “damaged goods” and might interfere with her already-difficult prospects of remarriage. <br /><br />My mother remarried when I was almost seven. Her new husband was into pornography. While she accepted this, she was quite capable of fighting back when it became personal. Once, when he came home from a strip club, he told her what she was going to do for him, to him, and she threatened to hit him with a frying pan. This story made its way into family lore as well, and while it wasn’t widely told, it was certainly shared among the women and sometimes children who were listening in. But this was a rather stark counterpoint to what she allowed. In the same timeframe, where I was more like 12 or 13, her husband would repeatedly singsong in front of us both, and my half-brothers, “incest is best; you know they say incest is best.” He was an avid reader of the cartoon, “Chester the Molester,” which he found to be outrageously funny, and he said that the slogan had come from there, or maybe I’d just seen it there. As weird as it felt, and over my objections expressed to my mother, I was expected to put his laundry, including his underwear, away, and often found stashes of pornography in his dresser. Which reminded me:<br /><br /> At age seven, I had sat of his lap and he’d scratched my back. I may have asked; this was a form of appropriate touch from my childhood -- my grandmother often scratched my allergy-itchy back. I described to myself in the best words I had at the time: he treated me like he would an adult woman, but I was a little girl. He pushed his hand past my arm and around the front, massaging my chest and pulling on my nipples. I was horrified, and at first rigid with fear. But he kept going! So I crawled off his lap and told him that it wasn’t right, what he’d done.<br /><br /> I kept my distance from him after that, often spending every minute possible as far away from home as a child can get on her own. He never did anything more to me, and I don’t recall telling my mother about it until I was an adult, living on my own, and being confronted for telling someone I thought to be a sympathetic relative about all the molestations by men in our family, and not just of me. She called my mother and reported my “lies.” At that point my mother was furious with me, screaming that if she’d known I’d wanted to be molested so badly, she would have arranged it for me so that I would have something valid to complain about. This was surreal, given that she knew of the childcare molestation(s). She had even mentioned, probably before I’d reached my teens, that she had asked the doctor at the time of the molestation if I was still a virgin! <br /><br />On her deathbed, where they called it cancer and I renamed it childhood, she rewrote our history aloud, one final delusion: ours was a boisterous family, she said. I’d say it was molesterous, and that the silence ended with my generation, at least with my cousin and I. I’m very proud of us.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-842371161692173823.post-44957400876242923912013-02-16T18:58:50.477-07:002013-02-16T18:58:50.477-07:00My husband was extremely bummed one day because he...My husband was extremely bummed one day because he felt that he was really small. I of course told him how much I loved him and that I was completely happy with him the way he was. He was so insistent that I was missing out and saying that if only I knew what was out there, I would be wanting a man who was bigger. I had no idea where this was coming from, but he was down about this for a few days. About a year or so later, I discovered what would turn out (by a counselor) to be porn addiction. When I found the porn, I was instantly filled with feelings of rejection and insecurity and felt like he didn't think I was enough or attractive at all and I felt as thought it was like he had cheated. I could not stop crying and yet he insisted that all guys need porn and that I was overreacting. For over a month we argued about it because I was telling him how hurt I felt and didn't see how he wouldn't stop for me, but he was insistent that I had esteem problems. He had no empathy at all for how I might feel insecure or hurt. It wasn't until a few months later that I thought back to the week where he was obsessed with his size and I realized that that must have come from his viewing porn. I had so much empathy and love for his feeling of inadequacy but he had no empathy for me as I spent over a month in tears and feeling insecure and not good about myself, with him wanting me to sport certain looks that I realize later were from porn? Even having gone through his own experience, he couldn't see how I might feel? Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-842371161692173823.post-41172407708749042432013-02-16T18:50:20.652-07:002013-02-16T18:50:20.652-07:00When I was married, before I discovered the porn, ...When I was married, before I discovered the porn, I noticed that things were happening in our intimate relationship that were hurting my feelings. He was becoming very frustrated if I wasn't hairless, as time when on he was wanting to do more and more rough things and was suggesting an interest in even violent sex, although we didn't do it. But I didn't know where these ideas were coming from. I felt like he thought I was unattractive when he said that he thought we looked terrible when we were naked. He even came on my face once time without warning me. Then I found the porn. I was devastated. We had discussed porn before we were married and I was very clear how I felt about it. He told me that he never really believed there was anything wrong with it, and he got frustrated saying that I had an issue with esteem and that all men want porn AND their wives and that it is completely normal. I said that I would have sex with him any time he wanted and asked him why he didn't come to me whenever he had that urge and he told me that all men want variety and he wants both. He wants to imagine sex with other women and I was just being insecure. He said that he fantasized about co-workers and people in public and wanted the variety. I told him how I had a right to feel hurt and that it was not a matter of low esteem, sure women are bombarded with images EVERYWHERE EVERY SINGLE DAY reminding me of my shortcomings, and this was just one more thing to make me feel not special. Especially when he was insisting that having hair below was gross and said we looked horrible and was becoming picky about my looks. I didn't feel at all happy with myself. I also discussed the industry with him. And I also noticed that he couldn't come unless he closed his eyes. So I was extremely upset and for a few days, as I was going through the hundreds of pages he had been looking at, I noticed how instantly I was reacting to what I saw. I am extremely visual and I was actually starting to think about everything I saw and then when we had sex, I was thinking of those images and couldn't orgasm unless I played a scene in my mind. This was after one week of viewing. I have NO DOUBT in my mind that I could become addicted to it too. And it made things that he was doing make more sense. It definitely is like a drug. I was always adamantly against porn because of its objectification. It is not a moral issue, is it purely a basic justice issue. Like a basic civil right that women do not have to be objectified and used to sell everything and to be exploited. He ended up leaving me because of porn and insisted that my esteem was the problem. Yes, I have low self esteem, but no one has any right to tell me that I have no right to feel hurt. Women are being steamrollered to have to "accept" porn in their relationships. A basic human need is to feel safe, secure and loved and in a relationship where your partner is ejaculating to other women when it is the ONE thing that you want to be the only one for you two to share that part of themselves with each other is NOT A FLAW. IT IS LOVE, LOYALTY and a relationship preference. THERE IS NOTHING WRONG WITH ANY WOMAN OR MAN WHO EXPRESSES FEELINGS with regard to porn. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-842371161692173823.post-44864432498115746172013-02-15T10:40:40.966-07:002013-02-15T10:40:40.966-07:00Hysterical_Dark, here's an advice: just dump t...Hysterical_Dark, here's an advice: just dump the dude if he doesn't respect you.Maggiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06050195471548220023noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-842371161692173823.post-38845107775170602012-12-11T17:07:54.126-07:002012-12-11T17:07:54.126-07:00Well I feel I am going crazy.My partner has a prob...Well I feel I am going crazy.My partner has a problem with porn.His addiction has made him hard to live with.I have been trying so hard to get through to him.He just will not stop.He said he wants to be with me but he hides what he does.I found it last night on his computer in his history.There was so much of it web cams,local Sex dating sites,crigslist local casual encounters and pictures.When I called him and asked him what he had done while I was gone he told me he watched a movie and played his game.On that history was just that day.I asked him again are you sure you didn't do anything else he told me that was all.Well that was a lie on the history was web cam porn and a lot of them.I told him I know what you where really doing and that I seen it.He told me he don't know what I was looking at because he didn't.So he blamed me for trying to start a fight.I told him fine I will show you when you get home so I did.When I shown him all what he has been doing all the to last month all the smut he has been looking at.He then said I didn't deny that he was.You can guess how that made me feel.I look at him and called him a pervert!I asked him if he wants to lose his family for this.I told him I can not live with this in my home around my little girl.I asked him if he would want his family to know why he is not in our lives?There was a lot I told him last night about this addiction and my concern about our relationship.Lisanoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-842371161692173823.post-76216178403498741812012-11-27T11:42:55.082-07:002012-11-27T11:42:55.082-07:00Quite simply, online pornography is destroying my ...Quite simply, online pornography is destroying my marriage.<br /> My husband is an online porno 'addict' and this addiction has changed everything that was 'us'. There is no more trust, no more honesty..also, sadly, no more mutual sex life. After seeing what my husband enjoys looking @--how horribly vile and mysoginistic online 'sex' is, I find myself cringing @ his very touch..<br /> My story: I knew, before we married, that my husband looked @ online porno from time to time, and I did not hesitate to let him know I disapproved..but I really had no idea! Quite ignorantly I thought that it was just an outlet he wouldn't need anymore once he lost his longtime bachelorhood.<br /> He bought me a laptop. Not being 1 to mince words, I told him straight up to please not use it for viewing online porno. He promised me he wouldn't. But, 1 morning, I opened my laptop to find it accidentally left open to such a site, and I am no prude, but what I saw so shocked and disgusted me that between that and the obvious sneakiness going on, we ended up @ a marriage counselor..Promises were made and I thought that was that..<br /> Saw my doctor sometime after that and mentioned that I felt a possible depression coming on. I was surprised when she immediately asked me if my husband was into porn? I did then confide it had been a past issue. She shared w me then that she and her partners had, in their practice, been finding that the majority of women coming to them for depression had partners who were into pornography! <br /> Not long after, it was my (grown) children(!) who alerted me to the fact that my husband was still indulging in this 'pastime'..that they had not only seen it for themselves in just walking by, but had also seen him viewing it w me right across the room! They also, in the night, had gotten up and seen him watching the latenight fare on the tv premium movie channels. <br /> I got up 1 night myself then and apparently the husband didn't hear me coming. I walked up to see him watching a nasty porn video on my laptop, and upon hearing me, quickly click over to a desktop cardgame he had been using for a cover! All too plain by then that Houston we have a problem! <br /> Since then, my husband cries "addiction" and has bought himself a book to help him w his "problem". Pardon me for not being impressed.. <br /> Since then, I have become sneaky and dishonest myself..Something I am not proud of. I have erased the internet access on his Wii. I have put Parental Locks on all the latenight porno tv fare. I also am embarassed to see myself having taken the time to figure out his email acct. password and snooping into his email acct. on a regular basis.. <br /> This is no way to live! And I grow tired of it..<br /> So glad to have found a place like this and it's affiliates (and I thank you). A place where a woman can come to share her story and make a public effort to put a stop to this growing problem..a very serious growing problem! I already personally know of too many marriages destroyed by it and fear I too will soon be 1 of those statistics. <br /><br />Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-842371161692173823.post-52268710355351519202012-10-22T07:32:45.081-07:002012-10-22T07:32:45.081-07:00Hi there...I just saw your website yesterday, and ...Hi there...I just saw your website yesterday, and I was so relieved that I'm not the only one who thinks there are so many things wrong with porn.You see, I haven't watched very much porn in my life...actually almost none, and I'm really glad for it.Now to my current situation:I'm with my second boyfriend almost two years ago. I thought he was a innocent, kind man, but I actually...not so sure anymore.You see, I really thought he was a considerate guy, since he waited one year to have sex with me. But then, when we had sex for the second time, things started to get weird. He wanted me to make a certain sexual position because he saw in a movie. But I didn't know how to, so he just gave up of that, and since I was so turned on at that moment, we continued having sex. But then, I decided to talk to him about it: I said "I didn' know you watched porn" and he said "But it was before I had meet with you". I was angry and upset, because he hide this from me the whole time. So I thought " I think I should forgive him, I mean...he was just trying to spice it up the moment, and he saw those videos before we even met with each other". A few months later, things get painfully worse: I asked casually to him "Do you still have the urge to watch kinky sites?" (yeah I didn't say "porn" because we were in the subway station) and then he said "yes"...and then, he carried on saying " Hysterical...do you...have the urge to pleasure yourself" and then I said "Yes, sometimes". And he said "You see...sometimes I watch porn sites, to have something to masturbate to...because it makes me remember of those good moments we had sex with each other". I said "its not fair! Porn is sexist, and you were pleasuring yourself thinking about other women!" and he said "But...its pretty normal to do this, its just some videos, and what a fell seeing then its note "real"...well at least I'm still better than those guys who catcall other girls/women...and the way things are now, you won't find any better guy than me...and this is what you get when you say tihngs like "I want the TRUTH, no matter how painful it is!"." I said, then, fiercefully "Whether you watch porn or catcall other women, its the same thing for me.BYE!" and then I went home. We fought a little via celular messages, and then he tried to apologize, saying that he would never watch porn again. So I replied, very sincerely "I'm awfully upset and disgusted with this whole situation. I thought you knew how I felt upset when you said you saw some porn videos. I don't know when I'll want to have sex with you ever again." Now here's the slap on my face: "You know what? I don't know even when I'll go ever into your home again. You just said to your mom that I still was into porn? Oh, just fuck it. I don't know even if I will want to have sex ever again. This shit just bring me problems"<br />Maggie, can you believe he said that!He was so considerate and kind, but I knew something was wrong. He touched my body in public, in certain places that I would not allow to, in public, he seemed pretty interested in other body types than mine...I don't know what to do anymore, should I just break up with him? I afraid that, if I give him a second chance, he'll lie to me and see those disgusting stuff again. Maggie, if you ever watch this post someday, could you please give me some advice? ThanksHysterical_Darknoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-842371161692173823.post-15361455370340244612012-07-02T13:51:06.520-07:002012-07-02T13:51:06.520-07:00I'm a guy, and porn has been part of me for we...I'm a guy, and porn has been part of me for well over half of my life. I'm nearing 27 now, and I'm horribly ashamed and full of regrets.<br /><br />The younger you are when you first start watching / masturbating to it, the more damaged you will end up being both emotionally and mentally. It started out with looking at still images of nude Playboy models, but that soon wasn't enough.<br /><br />It robbed me of any real relationships and friends, because why bother when you can just pleasure yourself at will and imagine yourself having sex with whoever you want?<br /><br />Some years later, it was the early 2000's and I'd turned to hardcore porn by then. But at that time, internet connections were slow where I was, and most porn clips on the internet were somewhat hard to find and only about 30 seconds long a piece. Compare that to now, where you can find full-length, hardcore films of whatever sex act or fetish you want with one simple Google search.<br /><br />I was in high school and fell for a lovely girl that I'll call Kristie here (not her real name). But due to my years of being a porn addict, I didn't know how to react or what to do and as a result I made a fool of myself and came across as a complete weirdo. Years of damage had been done and I saw everything through a porn lens: Though I genuinely liked her, all I really wanted was to get into her pants. It's shameful.<br /><br />She was the only girl I ever loved, and I know she was my one chance and I blew it completely. She hates my guts and it's likely I'll never see her again. So what did I do? I got even more and more into porn and lies upon countless lies just to make myself feel better.<br /><br />And now, it's 2012... nearly ten years after that. Ten years of watching porn and degrading myself over and over again. I've never been in a relationship or had sex, and I have no friends. I was so broken and angered at what happened over Kristie that I closed myself off from everyone, and didn't go to college or anything. I've tried countless times to stop but it's never taken for long... I hope *this* time is the one.<br /><br />The damage is done: I'm never going to be normal, and it really is all because of porn. I'm too far gone to just go out and try to make friends, date, etc... but at least I want to be free of what has been controlling my entire life for so long. Porn influences everything about you: your behavior, appearance, thoughts... EVERYTHING. And as I said, the younger you are, the more screwed up you'll end up being. Don't get into porn, because you might never get out before it's too late.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-842371161692173823.post-23659440073069640572012-06-16T22:34:55.999-07:002012-06-16T22:34:55.999-07:00pron is evil. i got raped by porn.pron is evil. i got raped by porn.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-842371161692173823.post-55836144217916868842012-04-05T20:35:13.268-07:002012-04-05T20:35:13.268-07:00I remember once saying "if they want to watch...I remember once saying "if they want to watch porn that's their right to do so. I figured the only actions I needed to worry about were that of my own. In my 30's I met a guy who seemed really nice. I remember the first time I went to visit him he had playboy mags in his bathroom. He claimed they belonged to his 20 year old son who was living with him. He was lying. Months later was when the abuse started. First verbal and then physical...and in the end I ended up under a knife with the police at our door. I had suffered years of abuse. I was never one to have a past abusive relationship. Before him I had healthy relationships with wonderful guys. One of the plea's he would always use the fact that he was recovering from prostate cancer as a way to gain empathy from me to not leave him. After the police hauled him away...I decided that I was going to find out how this all happened. Where did he get the idea that I was a....and I quote "a dirty whore, "you slut" unquote. He went through counseling and he even learned accountability and empathy along the way and that's when he started talking about porn. He said that porn taught him a sense of entitlement to "my" body. It taught him that regardless of me being a good partner and mother or two kids....that I was still a "dirty whore" due to constant misogynistic views that porn promoted towards women. Porn had played a role in creating an atmosphere for fake orgasms (because its hard to orgasm when you're being treated like an object in a porn film) the lack of intimacy was missing. He even had impotency problems even while taking cialis. When he got help and stopped using porn...things changed. He didn't need cialis and the derogatory, misogynistic, and sexist vocab. started to cease. We are not together anymore, even though he changed the damage was still there. He has become a male feminist and has been helping other men deal with masculinity issues and the sexual objectification of women and girls. I no longer say "if they want to watch porn its their choice" because I walk among the same streets and enter the same stores of porn users, the last thing I need is to have a stranger feel entitled to victimize me. Some say that their is no link between porn and domestic violence/rape but if this is so how come it seems like every crime these days against women the articles always seem to mention that porn was found in the perpetrators house?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-842371161692173823.post-30614494923290557682012-02-07T08:38:26.514-07:002012-02-07T08:38:26.514-07:00My cousin used porn to sexually abuse me.My cousin used porn to sexually abuse me.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-842371161692173823.post-83356929683260742012011-04-02T02:23:46.553-07:002011-04-02T02:23:46.553-07:00Check this out...its a blog of a formerly Porn act...Check this out...its a blog of a formerly Porn actress who wrote about some abuse on a web site...<br />http://clayrabeau.blogspot.com/2010/12/hard-city-indeed.htmlAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-842371161692173823.post-61147420962788095172011-03-31T03:24:09.384-07:002011-03-31T03:24:09.384-07:00porn was thrown around school
I hate how it harms...porn was thrown around school <br />I hate how it harms women.samuel welshnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-842371161692173823.post-46600290591280105222011-02-17T18:46:16.501-07:002011-02-17T18:46:16.501-07:00Plz help, is there anyway I can get my sister out ...Plz help, is there anyway I can get my sister out of porn? i'm a 13 year old boy from new jersey and my sister went to california to try and be an actress. but i found her on a porn site having sex with some guy. i feel really sick and it looks like theyre hurting her and she looks like she's crying at the end http://www.youjizz.com/videos/gag-factor---nikki-rhodes-159976.html.<br /><br />i just want it to stop. i hate porn now and ill never look at it again. its very painful and im sorry i ever looked at all. i never thought about the girls in the videos like actual people. i didnt even think about there families. i cant believe its happening to my sister, all those guys masturbating to it don't know shes so wonderful and caring and she shouldnt be used like shes just a hole. i can't get the sound of her crying at the end out of my head and what they made her do. im hurting so much over it and im scared my friends will find out and say shes a whore.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-842371161692173823.post-45684465872355278822011-01-09T05:53:50.202-07:002011-01-09T05:53:50.202-07:00English isn't my main language, however I coul...English isn't my main language, however I could recognize it while using google translator. Exceptional post, you can keep them coming! Thank you so much!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-842371161692173823.post-68773819382624810392010-12-01T16:46:39.024-07:002010-12-01T16:46:39.024-07:00I don't see no glitch. Everything seems fine.I don't see no glitch. Everything seems fine.Maggiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06050195471548220023noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-842371161692173823.post-14710056356888694362010-11-25T23:38:25.167-07:002010-11-25T23:38:25.167-07:00Dear Maggie Hayes;
First of all, you're one o...Dear Maggie Hayes;<br /><br />First of all, you're one of my heroes! I love your website "Against Pornography" - it was the main thing which convinced me, and then my boyfriend, to become antiporn! <br /><br />I wanted to bring to your attention that your website is glitched. You'll see what I mean if you go to the website. It has grey writing in the background of the regular black writing, and it makes it difficult to read. I also think it makes your website seem less reputable or trustworthy as a valid source. I know that the information on it is great. But lately I've been arguing with some friends about porn, trying to convince them to be antiporn, and referred them to your website. One of them used the glitch on your website as an excuse to discredit the info on it. >:(<br /><br />Anyways, please fix your website, is my main point. The information on there is far too valuable, and deserves to be presented in the best way!<br /><br />Best wishes...Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-842371161692173823.post-87836560573889991582010-08-11T03:33:26.322-07:002010-08-11T03:33:26.322-07:00About 1 month ago, I found out my husband was a po...About 1 month ago, I found out my husband was a porn addict. It nearly broke up our marriage and I had a nervous breakdown over it. Right now, we are both trying to recover. Several things struck me at the time. All addictions can be terrible but, this addiction leaves the partner in pain but, also completely isolated. It is something so embarassing and humiliating that it is very difficult to discuss with someone else. Furthermore, in the UK, it seems to be a problem that is largely unrecognised. Therefore, I have created a website about my experiences with porn addiction (and it also gives my husband's perspective too). My only aim through doing this, it to help people suffering like I did to feel a bit less alone. If I can help one person, then it will have been worthwhile. My website is www.pornpain.co.uk. I am happy for the site moderator to look at the site before including my post as it is not possible to describe this experience without being quite graphic about it.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com